August 7, 2017

The Things We Don't Talk About

I've had a lot on my mind lately. All things "we don't talk about." We don't talk about them because they're touchy subjects, and we don't want to rub people the wrong way. We don't talk about them because we live in such a politically correct culture that we might get roasted just voicing an opinion that isn't considered "okay" to hold.

So. Today, I'm talking about the things we don't talk about because I wanted to. I think that, in our ever-changing world that more and more wants to smother outliers, they need to be said.

+ There is one overarching theme of Christianity that is (supposed) to be found in all denominations: love everyone— that means every race, religion, ethnicity, nationality, sexuality, gender— as Jesus loved us. Christians do not judge and do not hate.

+ We live in an amazing era of body positivity and acceptance, but don't be blinded by the glamour of it: an unhealthy weight, under or over, is still unhealthy and could be the result of an eating disorder. There is a difference between being naturally curvy/thicker and being overweight, just as there is a difference between being naturally thin and being too skinny.

+ There is no list of "supposed to" dates and timeframes— graduations, marriages, births, deaths, promotions, moves, etc.— in writing, so don't impose them on yourself or others.

+ Identifying as Republican does not mean that you support every Republican politician and political decision, and identifying as a Democrat does not mean that you support every Democratic politician and political decision.

+ The fact that you've had something handed to you does not make you a bad person. The fact that you've worked hard for something doesn't make you better than someone else.

+ There is no proven right or wrong way to eat. Not eating plant-based or paleo doesn't mean that you can't live your best life. It's not the end of the world if you order the fries or cut your ten-day vegan challenge short.

+ Mental health is important. Depression and anxiety are two very real illnesses that sometimes have no traceable cause. You don't need a reason to feel depressed.

+ You don't know someone's circumstances— financial, social, or otherwise— so don't project your beliefs or situation, or what you would do, onto anyone else.

+ Education is one of the greatest blessings you can receive. A university-level education is an even greater blessing.

+ Nothing good comes of leaving a negative comment on someone's social media page or website. Nothing. Don't be a troll. If you have something to say that you truly believe is constructive and needs to be said, send the person a private message.

+ A regular sleeping schedule is so important to your physical and mental health.

+ Taking what you have for granted will leave you feeling one way and one way only: empty.

+ Female periods are not an excuse to eat pounds of junk food in bed while we watch Netflix, and they're not a hormonal joke or scapegoat. They can be, and frequently are, extremely painful— cramps that rip through your abdomen like a knife, headaches, nausea, and flu-like symptoms affect many women every month.

+ If you surround yourself only with blindly supportive people, you're hurting yourself. You need people who support you but who aren't afraid to tell you when they think you're making a huge mistake.

+ Don't post something on social media if you wouldn't want your grandma or your boss to see it. You might think you look cool now, but you definitely won't when it gets around or shows up years later on your Facebook timeline.

+ Family by blood is not all you have— friends are chosen family.

+ You can't always do whatever you want, whenever you want. Instant gratification culture is a ruse.

And there you have it. The things we don't talk about.


  1. Yes, Alexa, yes!! This is such an amazing post. Thank you for sharing this! I have to keep telling myself the timeframe one as I'm still on my job search and comparing my timeframe to others.

    Kendal // Life With Kendal

    1. Thanks, Kendal! It will all work out for you :)

  2. the thing is i don't know many people who are in delusion about their weight. It's more like, let me positive about how I look and work on being healthy.

    But even if someone thinks they're @ a healthy weight and are in fact not, I don't know I would comment on it one way or another. Like, even a general article aimed at strangers. It's not a problem that needs interfence from the general population imo. Not quite like smoking.

    1. Hi! I never used or implied the word "delusional," nor did I suggest that saying something about someone's weight directly to them is okay. I simply said that people sometimes don't recognize eating disorders for what they are. Just my opinion :)

  3. Hello! Ah I see. I guess I can't say too much, I haven't actually experienced any of it firsthand. (people not recognizing eating disorders for what they are)


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