April 17, 2017

Why It's Absolutely Okay to Ask for Help

We've all been there. I'm always there. You want to do it all yourself. You can do it all yourself, and you certainly don't need anyone's help getting whatever "it" is it done. Just because you can doesn't mean you should. It's absolutely okay to ask for help, and there are two big reasons why: when you ask for help, whatever you need to accomplish gets done, and, less obvious, when you ask for help, you learn.

When there's a lot on your plate, you can quickly become overwhelmed by how much you have to do and by how many deadlines you have. If you can ask someone to help you, why don't you? It can be harder to delegate tasks when they're less "to do list" items and more "how do I do this?" items, though. Example? It's much easier to ask a friend to drop something off at the post office than it is to ask a friend to look over your new business plan.

You've convinced yourself that you should know the answer to every question and problem that comes your way because you came up with the idea attached to all the questions and problems. And when you don't know the answer, you feel frustrated because; by asking for help, you feel like you're admitting to defeat. Especially when your idea is your brainchild and yours alone, you're protective of it and afraid of others interfering with your vision or, worse, criticizing it.

Asking for help does not mean that you're not good enough. 

Asking for help doesn't mean that you're incapable or that you're not smart enough. Asking for help simply means that you've realized that there's a way for you to accomplish what needs doing (the first part of the two-fold reason you should not be afraid to ask for help) and that you are willing and ready to learn something in the process. The person whom you're going to ask for help is likely someone who has experience doing what you need help doing and/or knows the "hows" and "whys" surrounding it. So why not ask?

After all, asking for help is often asking for advice, and you can take or leave advice at your discretion. At the end of the day, it's your choice whether or not to try what someone else suggests, so don't get hung up on the asking part.

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